Sometimes we don’t recognise our deeply ingrained stress responses, conditioning and internalised trauma until it rises to the surface. Whilst it gives us the opportunity to learn and grow, if we choose to learn the lessons, it can also surprise us and catch us unaware.
Read MoreHow our language, focus and intention determine what we manifest
I don’t know how it took me so long to realise… Seriously. I’ve been working with language, energy, intention and manifestation for a long time. How did this one escape me?
Read MoreDoes your Manifestation Miss the Mark and Fall into Wishful Thinking?
For years I was putting vast energy into manifesting, yet nothing seemed to materialise. I'd listened to, and read, The Law of Attraction, The Secret and many other, similar styles of information and books. I'd watched hours of YouTube videos, indulged my senses in every way possible with every manifestation expert under the sun….
Read MoreSubconscious patterns playing out in my interaction with the herd
The sun was shining on Thursday morning, as I arrived at the farm to meet the horses and facilitator. I was early and nobody had yet arrived. I walked up to the edge of the paddock where the herd was and met the most magnificent part Clydesdale horse named Jack. As soon as I saw him, there was a connection. An understanding. I knew we'd work together…
Read MoreHere I am. Another year older, a little wiser than when I was sitting at my desk a year ago, and feeling like both a tantruming toddler and a rebelling teen about my birthday.
Fuck it all. Here we go again.
I had been dreaming, making plans and booking activities for my birthday weekend because, for me, I like to make my birthday last more than just one day. It is, after all, not too often I get to make a whole day or more all about me, celebrating myself and my achievements during my turns around the sun.
Read MorePerfectionism is something we all grapple with. It is a natural part of our patriarchal struggle for acceptance in our community. Our brains are basic and hard wired for survival. We experience much of life as binary - live or die, black or white, right or wrong.
We learn acceptable and non-acceptable behaviours from the adults around us — by what they say and through what their actions show us. We develop belief systems around what we need to do to fit into the prescribed parameters and, when we deeply believe that our conduct is unbecoming, we create defence mechanisms, reactions and other safety measures to adjust our behaviour so that we will not be ‘thrown out of the tribe’.
Read MoreI don't know where January disappeared to but, goodness, it seemed to fly by! We are now welcoming in the Lunar New Year - the Year of the Yang Water Tiger. This is the time of the year when the energy seems to set in. I tend to find January is a place-holder month - one whereby we don't seem to achieve as much as we can in 'normal' months. We are in a place of reflection, planning and, especially in the Southern Hemisphere, the joys of holidays and summer.
Read MoreIt’s been a stressful couple of years. The uncertainty, the disruption, the lack of normal. We’ve had much to grieve - time lost with family and friends, changed or cancelled plans, lost jobs, lack of security and so much more besides. We’ve been on tenterhooks of what comes next, whether there is a next, whether tomorrow will bring us closer to normalcy or deliver us another blow. We’ve been bombarded with fear-based messaging, a constant drone of negativity and divisive psychological languaging that has sunk into the consciousness of much of the population, driving divisions between couples, friends and families.
Read MoreWhen children are little, we need to embody Mother as a verb, a doing word, the taking of action. We nurture, we nourish, we provide for their needs. We do the things we know they need to grow into healthy, and hopefully well adjusted, teens and adults.
As they grow and gain more independence we need to learn how to step back and become Mother as a noun. We let them know we are there for them and that they need this independence, holding space as they learn new things and grow their wings, but not jumping in and ‘doing’ the Mothering. It is a time to BE Mum.
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